Ohke.. now I'll blog some of the excerpts of my random thots and discussions I have had on the ever-burning and ever-alive topic, that drives the mankind's existence - "True Love". This blog deals with the discussion we had on what is "true love"; what kind of repercussions we have with some immature love affairs and what could be done to move along with and things like that.. The tone of the blog is lil harsh, basically dealing with the immature love affairs and their side effects.
Before going into it, in the last couple of days I have seen so many situations and felt that my last blog (Departing Lessons) was so immature, controversial , random and incomplete.. so I have updated it a lil bit.. I still wanted it to be controversial and radical, to have its impact. But the final essence of it was a complete and generic one and I have seen many such instances in other people lives as well... later I realized , after so much thought, that the real culprits in all these sad and weird incidents are "the high-expectations" and "dependency" on other persons.. full stop.
Now coming to our so called "True-love" concept. Many people 'say' that I am truly loving that girl/guy... and No matter What - I can do ANYTHING for them... my blog focuses on the inner emotions/psyches running behind and the causes for such behaviour.. (so as to help you realize, and next time you enter into a relation, you wud be balanced and watchful).. well these are my sole perceptions and if you are upset with it, I cant help it... all I can say is .. wait for your time, to realize these "naked truths".. they are so naked that we fail to see those thorns behind the beautiful red rose... which cud only be felt once we keep our hands on it...
Now why do u call it as "true love"..?? some idiot said in an idiotic movie.. that love itself is true.. and whatz the point in calling it as "true-love"... well I might agree with that, coz I do believe that there are very few instances in true love in the present world.. for eg: I believe in the love between the parents and their kids.. love we show on our pets or fav things.. but not the "love" on our opposite genders, which is the main concept of this blog have many expectations. Unless we are attracted to some attribute/part of the other person or unless we expect something from the other end.. we wont love them... it cud be the physical beauty, financial or a good company (yes, we expect to have a sane/sensible company to understand our feelings).. and in-turn we expect them to have something from our side.. and also we expect them to stick with us and be with us (possessive)... so all of these are various expectations. I might have missed some, but most of them wont realize it or dont hav the capability to do so.. but sub-consciously they can be felt. The faster you realize that, the better your relation wud be.. and the far-better your expectations wud be in the future of ur relation...
Now you claim that you can do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING for your love-object (lol) sry love-interest !! From a small attraction, your fascination for it wud go largely and claim things without considering the side-effects and that wud even be peril for your own existence/base... as if like, you come out of your home, fight with your parents (who gave birth to you and raised you) , risk your career (which cud be one of the main assets for the love-status you have).. and as such , cud be many other things. I chose the career aspect as main assets of your love-status, coz unless you were an educated (sane) or employed (stability) or rich person(wow!!) .. why would the other person wud bother to look at you, speaking frankly (good-luks are secondary).. this cud be the base of your relation... this might be the way u ppl hav met each other... and it is your parents who supported you to have that base.. and also the other person wud expect some kind of stability from your side.. now you risk that ALL for your mammoth fascination.. and if u fail to get that, you wud be a loss at both ends... this happened to many of the guys, I have seen. The worst part is that.. after the initial fascination phase, they are compelled to stick with each other, even if they are not suit to each other, realize it later and fight each other all thru life - or end up in the middle as broken heart/hearts..
what bugs me here.. is that why wud ppl lose their minds when they were in these affairs (I was thru it too) .. they spend all the time.. to have useless conversations (most of the time) on phone, chat or some other.. and in-turn if they are successful (if they think so), its gud... but if u wont and luk bak.. u'll feel guilty of yourself and feel what a loser you are.. if you are mature enough, u wud have a laugh at it and go ahead wid ur life.. if not, u wud be stuck up there.. and lose all your life. My sincere request to all those love-losers, plz get over it... its nt the end of life.. its your fortune that you have experienced it soon.. just one of the lessons of life to make you more strong.. be happy with it!!
Okie the other side of story... as I said I do believe in "Love"... but in a sense not "True-Love" mostly.. ppl have expectations on each other and accept it.. be mature enough to balance all the sides of ur relation.. career, love, parents, financial..etc., My point here is, you dont need to show your love all time to your interest and impress them (once you are thru it), you both know how much you love each other.. and spend reasonable time with each other, without getting bored of each other.
Coming to fight against your parents, I feel that, they being our parents, they wud of-course accept our love-interest , if we convince them properly and if they are mature-enough and believe in our mature thinking. Also be clear with what we want from the other side and vice versa. Know each other better, before making any promises or commitments. If we fail to do so, never mind... its better to realize it soon than later. If you realize you both were not getting along well .. stop there, communicate it, and let them know what you think.. if you both are fine with a compromise and live with it for the rest of your life, go ahead.. dats your wish.. its better to come out of few mistakes than to have or make a series of mistakes (knowingly) and live a compromised-life.. (dont mis-interpret the word 'mistake' here..) Dont search for an ideal partner, it wont exist.. search for an ideal match, that completes you... the sooner you realize, the better your love-life..lol..
Now next timewhen you claim its a True-love.. think twice.. !! as for me.. I truly love "Sonali Bendre".. without any expectations.. this is what true love is.. learn from me... hehe...
Before going into it, in the last couple of days I have seen so many situations and felt that my last blog (Departing Lessons) was so immature, controversial , random and incomplete.. so I have updated it a lil bit.. I still wanted it to be controversial and radical, to have its impact. But the final essence of it was a complete and generic one and I have seen many such instances in other people lives as well... later I realized , after so much thought, that the real culprits in all these sad and weird incidents are "the high-expectations" and "dependency" on other persons.. full stop.
Now coming to our so called "True-love" concept. Many people 'say' that I am truly loving that girl/guy... and No matter What - I can do ANYTHING for them... my blog focuses on the inner emotions/psyches running behind and the causes for such behaviour.. (so as to help you realize, and next time you enter into a relation, you wud be balanced and watchful).. well these are my sole perceptions and if you are upset with it, I cant help it... all I can say is .. wait for your time, to realize these "naked truths".. they are so naked that we fail to see those thorns behind the beautiful red rose... which cud only be felt once we keep our hands on it...Now why do u call it as "true love"..?? some idiot said in an idiotic movie.. that love itself is true.. and whatz the point in calling it as "true-love"... well I might agree with that, coz I do believe that there are very few instances in true love in the present world.. for eg: I believe in the love between the parents and their kids.. love we show on our pets or fav things.. but not the "love" on our opposite genders, which is the main concept of this blog have many expectations. Unless we are attracted to some attribute/part of the other person or unless we expect something from the other end.. we wont love them... it cud be the physical beauty, financial or a good company (yes, we expect to have a sane/sensible company to understand our feelings).. and in-turn we expect them to have something from our side.. and also we expect them to stick with us and be with us (possessive)... so all of these are various expectations. I might have missed some, but most of them wont realize it or dont hav the capability to do so.. but sub-consciously they can be felt. The faster you realize that, the better your relation wud be.. and the far-better your expectations wud be in the future of ur relation...
Now you claim that you can do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING for your love-object (lol) sry love-interest !! From a small attraction, your fascination for it wud go largely and claim things without considering the side-effects and that wud even be peril for your own existence/base... as if like, you come out of your home, fight with your parents (who gave birth to you and raised you) , risk your career (which cud be one of the main assets for the love-status you have).. and as such , cud be many other things. I chose the career aspect as main assets of your love-status, coz unless you were an educated (sane) or employed (stability) or rich person(wow!!) .. why would the other person wud bother to look at you, speaking frankly (good-luks are secondary).. this cud be the base of your relation... this might be the way u ppl hav met each other... and it is your parents who supported you to have that base.. and also the other person wud expect some kind of stability from your side.. now you risk that ALL for your mammoth fascination.. and if u fail to get that, you wud be a loss at both ends... this happened to many of the guys, I have seen. The worst part is that.. after the initial fascination phase, they are compelled to stick with each other, even if they are not suit to each other, realize it later and fight each other all thru life - or end up in the middle as broken heart/hearts..what bugs me here.. is that why wud ppl lose their minds when they were in these affairs (I was thru it too) .. they spend all the time.. to have useless conversations (most of the time) on phone, chat or some other.. and in-turn if they are successful (if they think so), its gud... but if u wont and luk bak.. u'll feel guilty of yourself and feel what a loser you are.. if you are mature enough, u wud have a laugh at it and go ahead wid ur life.. if not, u wud be stuck up there.. and lose all your life. My sincere request to all those love-losers, plz get over it... its nt the end of life.. its your fortune that you have experienced it soon.. just one of the lessons of life to make you more strong.. be happy with it!!
Okie the other side of story... as I said I do believe in "Love"... but in a sense not "True-Love" mostly.. ppl have expectations on each other and accept it.. be mature enough to balance all the sides of ur relation.. career, love, parents, financial..etc., My point here is, you dont need to show your love all time to your interest and impress them (once you are thru it), you both know how much you love each other.. and spend reasonable time with each other, without getting bored of each other.
Coming to fight against your parents, I feel that, they being our parents, they wud of-course accept our love-interest , if we convince them properly and if they are mature-enough and believe in our mature thinking. Also be clear with what we want from the other side and vice versa. Know each other better, before making any promises or commitments. If we fail to do so, never mind... its better to realize it soon than later. If you realize you both were not getting along well .. stop there, communicate it, and let them know what you think.. if you both are fine with a compromise and live with it for the rest of your life, go ahead.. dats your wish.. its better to come out of few mistakes than to have or make a series of mistakes (knowingly) and live a compromised-life.. (dont mis-interpret the word 'mistake' here..) Dont search for an ideal partner, it wont exist.. search for an ideal match, that completes you... the sooner you realize, the better your love-life..lol..
Now next timewhen you claim its a True-love.. think twice.. !! as for me.. I truly love "Sonali Bendre".. without any expectations.. this is what true love is.. learn from me... hehe...
2 comments:
hahaha...good one ra Kalz... i liked the ending actually [:p] ... "Don't think that i'm a flirt...." and..."I truly love Sonali..." Hahaha.. good end ra .
Anyways... u said that u have been thru all this "true-love" tragedy.... u never told me that.
Ideal match that completes ones self... Liked that comment. Other than that on the perspective of the blog - I never believe in the fact that one ends up in peril while loving his suitable half. It is quite possible that the better half motivates one to perform better in life and succeed. A lost heart can never be found. It can only be repaired. There's nothing wrong in being a failure (in terms of love). But that failure should not b the sole purpose of failure in life. It has to be a motivation.. Guess am rambling a lot... blah blah.... Enjoy life in New Hampshire..... PS u and flirting... Seesh! never.. U have no qualities of flirting..... :-)
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